It is impossible to change our characteristics and attitudes

            Life is a process of becoming and may encounter unusuality, its changes don’t necessarily assure progress, it is not that we are afraid of being changed, and it is we find difficulties in accomplishing such change. Our personality maintains its character despite of several circumstances, even if we face such different kind of situation our habitual manner usually occurs and we hardly transform it to a new disposition. These are some usual reasons why we barely change our characteristics and attitudes. First, we tend to fall in love with our old ways, secondly we think of the people that surround us and thirdly we lack self-control in improving our character and motivation in pursuing it.

            For instance, we plan to change our negative attitudes but since we often done this thing it is not easy for us to leave all behind our characteristic feature for a reason of always turning back to it, or should I say we always do it even though it is not pleasing. There was a friend of mine who shared her story about her experience in dealing such change; it started when her classmate annoyed her telling that she’s a war maker because of being cranky, by then she was really disturbed and tried to develop herself but every time she tried to do it she always went back to her old ways, her attitude of being short-tempered. In the process of developing our self it is inevitable to feel hopeless, thinking that there’s nothing else to hold on to because we might feel that there’s no assistance from our friends or even from our family. Another cause is that, we found it hard to adopt another way of living since we enjoy our old ways, like my friend she were acting like a dictator of any other people, she give task to others when she is actually able to do the task, and in her view she don’t want to be inferior so as long as she could why not grab the opportunity of being superior, her doings may be immoral and proves that she’s really selfish. Another thing is, it is tough for us to do new beginnings because we might think our changes won’t fit to us, and our imaginations are always ahead from our action and we usually expect bad outcome, we sometimes act like pessimistic. For us to overcome this we should have brave will but unfortunately our cowardice being always appear and hinder our favorable outcome. It is really necessary to empty out the old to make a room for the new to enter, in other words we should give up some things for us to acquire our desires.